Yep butt kicking is of no use at this time. And yes just dealing with the now is enough for now.
Actually I am just not there yet to where I should be scared over this. And my fear is not physical more of the emotional drama he puts everyone through and not wanting to be put in a place of feeling like I have to protect the world from him anymore. But when it and if it gets back to that point I will just have to remember others can handle a little harrasment if need I don't need to protect them.
Right now he seems to be acting fairly reasonble which is good, do you think he might agree to seeing a MC w/you?
Not really sure if he would but I am so still keeping my fingers crossed about getting him to see a shrink lol. I think being ask direct probing questions instead of how was your week what happened how do you feel about it basics would be more helpful in determining his problems and giving direction in what to do to solve them. I myself am going to look back into taking some personal C sessions. Not that I feel I profitted much from the last time but if I am in luck there will be a new C on the company list who is better at helping me then the last.
but someone who can help him understand what he's really been doing to you and the kids and how that's affected your M...how it's affected you, and how it's affected his R with the kids.
Actually hoping when we get the inital report from Heaths exam that it will spell some of this out already. And also open his eyes up a little wider. Maybe mine also. If he was not scheduled to work days that day I would have him take Heath for the testing so the parent part would be done by him instead of me. But I will be more open (deep sigh of oh here I have to sprew my guts forth again) and honest of the situation so maybe that is for the better.
You will get through this....and honestly, you are going to be amazed at the woman you will become.
If I can just get close to being the woman I use to be I am good with that. I liked her a whole lot better then the one I am right now.
