Lets see does Don't let the door hit you on the way out. Can I help you pack. Or where would you like your mail delivered count?
But yes about the same time I told him that I would load the gun for him I also told him that in the future if he said he was going to move out he better be prepared to do it. I think that is why he was dropping veiled hints and not directly threatening it. Also why I think he reversed his behavior when I called his bluff by saying it for him and being excepting of it. And also by knowing if it was his choice then he could not reasonably come after me. It not only quelshed his attempt of control through manipulation it also brought on a bigger reality by doing so he risk lose of all control.
I know BF disagree's with my methods. That as a female I can not refuse to step in his crap as he tells the men to do. But sitting around taking it has gotten me no where either. Others may not agree either in my method of late. I know there is a risk factor. But I am looking at it like this. Regaurdless if I am the cause of the explosion or sitting around waitting for the explosion there is still the same result a explosion. I actually have more control of where I stand at the time if I am the cause.
Sitting around being the pansy girl the last few years has gotten me now where but further in my depression. It has not changed a thing. Going back to who I am and standing up for me seems to be having better results though very slight. But by refussing to take it any more it moves the ball into his court. He will either get sick of it and leave. Or he will acknowledge his problems and work towards changing them. Either option is better then where we have been.
If he leaves I will be fine. If he decides to address his issues I will help to the best of my ability. It is forward motion either way. No longer standing still.
