"I told him because if he chooses to leave he has no right to threaten me or anyone else or blame me for walking away. Because it is of his choice."

I think I need to get more boundary advice from you Chrissy. I think you did admirably with the whole situation.

"Even the kids were like not a big deal he will come right back if he even leaves."

Kids amaze us sometimes, don't they.

"Makes me feel like he appreciates me and my efforts to be a good mother."

That is an awesome development. Kids can be the saving grace at times. I know I have had several bummed-out moods broken by two little girls screaming daddy and clamouring to sit on my lap so that I can read a book with them.

" I am in a slightly better mental place then I was before and feel I have the strenght to fight the fight it will take to get him to check this out."

Good luck, convincing someone that they need to get checked out for a mental condition is I'm sure very difficult. I wish you the best.

"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"

Inertia Creeps by Massive Attack