We have been this road before. And I have done what I am doing now I take over. And I take the blunt of it. All those arguements I listed were brought on and me stepping in to show him he is a little over board. If the dog pee's or poops he needs corrected but there is a line. H is a bully but he is not heartless.
And in truth I am going to look for someone who wants the dog and simply state it ran off when I let it outside. It is wronge to lie but I cannot take on much more to protect. Without losing it completely. His last dog is chained outside and now is my sons and he loves it.
I will figure something out. I am just really really stressed right now.