Yes there is a eggshell feeling around her at times. Oddly when H is not home my house functions like a normal household. It becomes dysfuntional in his presense. The day that it remains dysfunctional in his absense is the day I know my kids are suffering more then they benifit.
Actually my H and his behavior is very predictable. That is how both my son and I pegged his response to my leaving the house with out him. The fact that it is always about the same is what works in my favor. It is actually a means to keep him from gaining all the control of my kids and myself. We all know what may potentially trigger a land mine so we tread softly. And some things we just completely stay clear of if at all possible.
Funny when friends or family call me one of the first questions they ask me is if Rich is at home. That way they know if we are having a conversation about the weather or if we are talking about the kids and how I am. Basically if we are going to have a relaxing conversation or a frivolous one. Not that even when he is not here we talk about anything of substance that he could not be privy to it is just my relaxed and flowing. I do not have to gauge my answers I can laugh freely and not have to explain myself to anyone.
Okay we are now going to a more upbeat conversation.
Cookies I am about to go bake some! White Chocolate Chip mmmmm one of my favorites. Thank golly for school cookie dough fund raisers!
