Chrissy... You really can't form too much of an EC with an abusive, unpredictable spouse...you are basically in survival mode. You have made the decision to stay, and are finding ways to make your existence with him more tolerable. The whole relationship has a " walking on eggshells" feeling to it; no ownder you want to mentally prepare your sons about what to expect when you return home/ Do you fear for your safety? Do you have symptoms of post-traumatic stress? is your H willing to seek help?
