Chrissy,
I'm horrified at the way your H speaks to you. I cannot imagine it.

What if you were to calmly say to him--every time he does it, "please do not cuss at me or tell me to shut up".

Do you think he'd eventually take the hint? I mean, I'm sure at first he'd laugh or ignore you, but eventually would it sink in?

I am amazed that he'd think that you would want to be sexual with him, or even loving, given how he talks to you.

Big hugs friend,
HP