I'm kind of curious as to why you marked a calendar though. It's just my p-o-v, but isn't that kind of "in his face"?
It started as a means of me making sure I met my min every month which I have with the exception of one month in the last 15. Probably due to the fact it is something I am reminded of daily as I look at the calender. I am a desire after arousal person so the want of sex does not just pop up in my mind often. H did not even know what the stars marked on the calender where for until about 4 months ago. When he started a huge fight over how we had not had sex in weeks and had only had sex about 5 times in two months I was like yes we have and it was more like 16. I then told him what the stars were.(two of my kids had longed figured it out lol). I don't believe the fact that I mark it down is the real issue. The real issue is that he cannot act like he is depraived and I do not try. So his anger is unfounded and his threats are unjustifable and of no relevance to me. My H is very controlling in this way. His accusations of me marking days that we do not really have sex and my response of standing up for myself by simply stating if you want to you can initial the days without matching anger or resentment is something he is not use to dealing with so it causes him inbalance of his being able to control me. Hence the new issue of my marking the calender as a means of trying to retake the upper hand so he can again act like a victim and make false accusations with no proof of other wise. If he truely thought I was marking days down to make it look as if we had sex when we had not. He would start initalling the days. It was all a control thing. Threaten her she will stop then there is no proof that my actions are unfounded the next time I start a fight so I can make her look like a bad guy. And I can play victim.
