Hey Ouch. I know it''s hard, but I am hear to tell you, it does get easier. Your STBX will finally let her guard down. You can do the same right now. Look at it this way, you are no longer trying to get her back. Behave naturally as you would with anyone. She can't hurt you any more, really. If you can be more relaxed, she will be too. Right now, she is waiting for you to explode. She knows what it has done to you, don't think she doesn't. She needs to keep her defenses high to push that thought away, but she also keeps them up because she thinks you're going to snap. Once she realizes you aren't, she can release some of it and you two can start to communicate over the raising of your child. You're in that part of things together forever. Try to make it as easy as possible on yourself.
