The court already knows about the dope and don't care, they view it the same as smoking or drink, not bothered as long as isn't excessive. However, anti-D's are for 'mental health' problems so they do look badly on those.
UK law is looser on dope than the US. It's now a class B drug and legal to use it in small quantities. You're just not allowed to grow or deal it.
But I'll admit he does it A LOT more than I thought, like several times a day.
EX-OW1, I wouldn't even look at her never mind ask her for a lift. No way. She does dope too, so does her daughter, daughter's bf (who has a wife, 3 kids and newborn baby he is cheating on). I would never ask those people for anything.
I did say I was going earlier but Andy said I wasn't taking DD4 and I knew it would get violent if I tried to so I had no choi=ce but to stay for Christmas Day.
You've got it the wtong way around with the mental health - the fighting is the END RESULT, not the cause of the depression.
What causes depression in me is him trying to be 'friends' - that just messes with my head, makes me miss him, makes me hope for an R, makes me sexually frustrated, whereas if he is just 'civil', picks up DD4 and drops her off again, I'm not depressed, except he doesn't want to do that, has always insisted on 'friendship' at my expense, not realising it tortures me.
It's over and since it's over I want it to be over and not have 'friendship'. He REFUSES the civilty, insisting it's right to be friends and then gets pissed off when I don't want to, or I feel like I'm getting so close it hurts so sometimes I am glad of a row just to get him to back off. It's close but not close enough if you know what I mean, and that just hurts too much.
A friendship is a half-relationship in my opinion and I just need closure in order to be mentally happy. That's why my mood has been so rotten lately, as he's been trying to force a friendship on me for the last couple of months. I hate it.
There is only one type of relationship I would ever have with him and it isn't that. In light of how he treats me, I don't think I'd even have that now.
If he just backed off and accepted I don't want him in my life in any form without a R, we could do the child contact stuff better and I wouldn't get so upset.
I'm not going back to the house. I didn't want to anyway, he has been PILING pressure on me for months about that. This is the perfect excuse I need not to go there. He says I'm not welcome which is what I want because then he might stop pressuring me.
Yes, BIL is Bi. I've known since we were kids, easy to tell, although he didn't admit it until we were adults. I don't care two hoots. I am sexually open minded. The only time I found it awkward was one time he told me about this guy he was dating and talked about this sexual problem with me in graphic detail and I'd never heard an account of gay sex before so that took a bit of getting used to. He tells me everything about his life.
There is still chemistry between us, but I'm not in love with him like that (I love him, it's more of a 'I've known you forever, you're like my furniture'), kind of thing and 99%of the time we are just friends, then it overlaps into something else. But we both know there is absolutely no future in it (too complicated with him being Andy's brother), and that makes it safe. I think that's WHY we still flirt and why I still talk to him. Not a chance on earth of ever being hurt since it's a non-starter.
So I wouldn't worry about him. He's one of those friends who won't go away. You lose touch for a bit and then he's back. I think we will know each other till we are old, although sometimes it might only be by Christmas card.
