Formulating a plan for 2006

[Becca1975]

Jo,

I haven't been an active poster on your thread but I do try to read often. Forgive me if I mis-say something here. I'm not entirely sure why you don't have BOTH of your daughters with you. They both need to be with you. Your X is one horrible person and nothing good can come of being anywhere near him and your girls certainly do not need to live with him. You need to do whatever it takes to get custody of both. Should be fairly easy to do if you make a report of his substance abuse. Do it quietly so he does not suspect you. I understand that you are slightly handicapped, however I have seen fully wheelchair bound mothers care for their children in every way. It may be more difficult but it can be done. Anyone who talks to you that way, manipulates you, forces you to do drugs and live the life you are living is not someone you OR your girls need to be around. To be honest, with the whole dope cake/sleeping in the bed with BIL, my first thought was something similar to date rape. Get you high/stoned/whatever and available to him. Wouldn't surprise me much from what I've read if it wasn't all a plan of some sorts. Honestly, I'd take the girls and I'd get far from him. I don't often say that a marriage can't be fixed, but that is a hazardous situation for all of you. I think I read somewhere where you think your other daughter dislike you. Too bad. She doesn't have the choice to dislike her mother. Take her anyway, she will grow to like you without his influence. She needs her mother and her mother needs her.