I have no doubt that Andy still has designs on DD4, but he hasn't a hope in hell of getting her. I have all these diary enteries of what has been going on, I have his msn ILY's and sex messages to prove exactly what he has been doing.
There is no court in the world that would think it unreasonable of me not to want to spend Christmas with my EX and since he gets 5 days in the New Year for contact and extra summer holidays, I can't see them making an issue of Christmas. Even if they did, it's civil law, not criminal law, so I can turn round and say no.
What are they gonna do, lock me up for wanting to spend Christmas with my child? Even if they DID lock me up, it'd only be for a few days at most, and I'm perfectly prepared for that if necessary, in the name of justice - the suffragettes had to get locked up numerous times before women got the vote.
I will never agree for him to have my child at Christmas when he has taken my entire family, never.
In fact, I don't even have to reply to his solicitor's letters if I don't want.
DD4 is fine. I don't abuse her, neglect her or anything else. She goes to pre-school, unlike my other children, she is emotionally well adjusted (unlike DD2 who is a mess), I don't smoke around her all the time or take drugs like Andy does, I don't have loads of men friends coming to the house like he has women.
I haven't self-harmed again like when he first left and she has lived with me and only me since she was born, so I can't see that he would have a hope in hell's chance.
I'm just tired of being friendly when there is always an ulterior motive with him.
