greekgoddess, Here is a suggestion on how to deal with you XH as far as threatening to use a lawyer. Instead of saying "he was threatening you", tell him you hung up on him because you did not appreciate his tone. The conversation was urning negative and was unproductive. Then tell him to call you back when he intends to be cordial and nice. When you use words like "threaten" they suggest that you feel... well threatened. He obviously feeds off of this and likes it. Otherwise he would not do it. Pull a 180 on him that will cause him pause and think. By doing this he will be forced to change his appraoch and attitude. Anyway, calling a lawyer is a pain in the a$$ and costs money. At this point he just wants to cause trouble and control your emotions. He cant control anything else. Dont let him get away with it. He is a controller and you dont want or need that. Try and have the Merriest Xmas you can. ((((((greekgoddess))))))
