Quote: Wow...I have never thought of it that way...I wonder if she is thinking... if he's doing it, I'm doing it...eeeks...I am so freaking out right now...
No, she isn't thinking that. She's thinking "I want what I want and I'm going to get it because I WANT it, nyaa nyaa nyaa!".
Quote: "I just feel that if while we are trying to work on our marriage these next four weeks, I find it hard for myself to see other people (she thinks we are both seeing people) while I want to focus on our marriage...what are your thoughts W?"
I like that. I know my C would never tell me to give her an ultimatum. Instead, I tell her what I AM GOING TO DO FOR ME. I told her I could not date for a couple years because I am not emotionaly available to someone which isn't fair to THEM. And I won't hurt my kids by putting them through that right now. Made her think about what SHE is doing and how it is affecting them without accusing her.
You can't go wrong if you speak in terms of YOURSELF.
How many times has someone said to you "I'm doing X and Y because it makes me feel ..." and then you think "Geee, I should be doing X and Y....."
