can your W have a session alone with her perhaps so that the MC can feel her out a bit before you drop this bomb on her?
MC has also been meeting with W individually as well as me...although the MC did say that she felt that W was withdrawing a bit from individual therapy, maybe W thinking that the joint sessions are all she needs...BIG MISTAKE!
I guess we all want the magic bullet, but in the end all sitch are different and everyone handles things differently...so IF I were to ask her to stop seeing OM...what do you think about this? (from a WAW perspective)
"I just feel that if while we are trying to work on our marriage these next four weeks, I find it hard for myself to see other people (she thinks we are both seeing people) while I want to focus on our marriage...what are your thoughts W?"
Maybe she says she agrees...maybe she says that she thinks she will be fine seeing both of us...of course that is when I will have to say that I won't be comfortable with that....and I understand that she is not in that place right now and I'm sorry that in order to stop the pain I must move on...
I know not typically DBERing and I'm not asking you to betray the code...just some friendly advice from someone who has been there. (I think NYS is right...something stinks about what she is doing)
