Do you have any thoughts on what NYS said about the C suggestiong to bring it to a head?
Vince honestly, I don't know...I certainly do not have the expertise of your MC. If you trust them with your M, then you trust them and follow their suggestions/directions.
I wish I could help...but I certainly don't want to give you advice that may turn around and backfire. That's why I suggested asking your MC since she has spoken with you both. I just offered my personal experience as a WAW...can your W have a session alone with her perhaps so that the MC can feel her out a bit before you drop this bomb on her? Or do you think she already has a pretty good handle on the sitch?
Yes, it does go against DB and Marriage Builders for what its worth...but again, the MC gets paid the big bucks for knowing their stuff. Sorry, I can't be of more help here.