so what do you think happens when faced with a decision of stay with H or stay with toy who has no long term implications (supposedly)
if she is acting like a child (which she is), wouldn't she choose the one with the long term possibilities? I know she doesn't want to lead the dating/single life...the decision that I think she faces is me and some work ahead of her to repair M or stay with OM and she knows that it will eventually end and then she WILL be in the dating/single scene but time will have passed and Vince will be long gone.
She goes for the option where she is treated with love, respect and appreciation. This may be with H, om, someone else, or she finds that she best fulfills her own needs.
When I left, I gave my H, every chance to wake up. I learned how to speak without fear of retribution because I had already left, I knew I was going to be okay whether or not we worked things out. When he showed time after time that he was not capable of being there I closed the door.
From my experience, yes I would have liked to work things out with my H, back then. We had a child, we had built a life together, an extremely successful business...but in the end, decided that it wasn't worth it, if he couldn't put back into the M. For the record, I did not leave him for the guy that I had the EA with, I left him for me...I left him for my daughter. I also wouldn't say that I acted like a child at all. But again, my M had many issues including his controlling factor (so bad that let's just say I didn't even get my drivers license until we separated and we lived in the country, convenient eh?), his numerous As through the years, as well as his being a workaholic and in my behalf, I was a conflict avoider (big time), no self-esteem, no friends other than his business partner and his W, no outside life, everything focused on him and building up his business...his business partner came before his family. The turning point in our M came when I started my own business, and discovered there was a whole nother world out there. I travelled to escape. Met new friends, got a life, built a name for myself and then found myself crying everytime the plane landed in Dallas.
