Quote: Discovery from session: she does not see OM as long term prospect at all...she rolled her eyes at the thought...good sign
If she is staying at OM house that much...she must have me and MC fooled huh? He must mean more to her after all. I hate holidays that allow me to stay up and think all night.
I think you are making yourself nuts. In fact I think you ARE nuts! Nuts! Nuts! Nuts!
You are making ASSUMPTIONS. You say "If she is staying at OM house that much" THEREFORE "He must mean more to her after all." more than WHAT? Potatoes? More than having a chocolate bunny at Easter? More than a dolphin shaped vibrator? What is he MORE than to her?
Oh wait, HE must mean MORE to her than YOU or she couldn't possibly want to be with him, right? You hoped that because "she does not see OM as long term prospect at all" that he must mean NOTHING to her and she will dump him right now. Get out! Bad Dog!
Well, when I was 21 there were several girls I liked dating and banging. If you asked ME if I saw a long term relationship with them, I would say NO. But if you asked me to give them up.... well... that's another story. They were my playthings, I liked playing with them. Eventually they got boring or wanted more than to 'play' with me so I would give them up. That's what THEY MEANT, to ME - they were playmates and nothing else. And they were fun.
Our WAW's are acting 17 again. He's a playtoy, nothing more. She basically confirmed this. That means his days with her will end eventually when she gets tired of running from her life, or putting up with HIS. Then she will either face life with you or keep running.
This is a good thing for you. Think of OM as a joke, he's a giant VIBRATOR that doesn't need batteries. Or, reverse the roles. OM sees YOU as the man she would go to after she is done having her way with him, and he'll be cast out like yesterdays trash. Boo hoo. Poor him. That's all he has to look forward to? Kinda sad, isn't it?
My somewhat neurotic point here is simple. "She doesn't see him as anything but a toy for now." So the concept of 'meaning something to her' has no application here. He has no meaning beyond the meaning you would assign to a toy. Very little.
And GO BACK a few posts here and re-read Sassy's post on getting over affairs. She is right on. I'm not 'over' the affair and it's still going on, just long distance. But I have stopped thinking who is better than who, since I'm the better man - I don't have affairs with married women.
And, I am getting treatment.
We now return you to our regularly scheduled whining, already in progress...
