Quote: Tell me that people really do get through A's...I mean it is such a sad thing to do to a R. I don't know how I'll ever get over it.
and you knew the tv shows were done...LOL!!
Yes, they really do get through the A...of this I promise...whether or not they reconcile with their WAS, they do get through it. It is probably next to losing the one you love through death, the most painful experience that someone can go through. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
But look at it in a different way...it's a chance for all of us to grow as individuals...to find our way in the world, to find out who we all are. Looking back at the past 6mos Vince, I wouldn't trade this growing experience for anything. I've learned all over who I am again...what makes me feel great, not feel great...I've learned that I am in control of my life and no one else's. I've learned that by letting go of things and people I have no control over...that things work out.
None of us are perfect, if we were, we wouldn't be here, would we? It's what we do with this experience, where do we take it from here...I see so many people on here that look to their WAS as their only source of happiness...I was there too and now looking back that alone breaks my heart. What happened to us being our own source of happiness. I'm now at a point where you know what, I like myself...I have the greatest group of friends in the world, I have a lovely daughter...so what if I never find love again...while admittedly there is nothing more I would like than to find the one man that I will spend the rest of my days with, it's also more importantly not a necessity in my life. If it happens, great...but I've been fortunate to have experienced it a few times in my life...it's not going to be the end of the world. What would be, would be to lose myself again...and I won't do that...not for anyone.
We think that if we get the WAS to come home now...this very moment, life will be perfect...we can just sweep the A under a rug and move forward...it's not that simple. Life and love is not that simple. The same problems would come up...nothing has been resolved. No one has changed, no one has learned from the experience...but there is still pain in both the LBS and WAS hearts...because the underlying issues for the A were never addressed.
As long as YOU want to get over it, you will...the mind is a powerful thing my friend. You just have to learn how to use it in a positive way.
