Quote: what are your thoughts about next session me asking that she cut things off w OM for the time we are "working on the marriage"
LOL..we have an hour left.. Actually my friend that is an ultimatum, no matter how you sugarcoat it...it is what it is. I personally don't work well with them. How do you work with them? How does your W? If someone tells you to do something, what do you do?
If she choses to not cut it off, can you live with that? Is that TRULY where you are right now that you can go in and extend that request to her and have no regrets 10yrs later if she says you know what...I'm gonna see where this goes with him?
If you are so inclined to want to suggest something like this, perhaps speak with the MC first before the actual meeting and get his/her take on a better approach...maybe you could ask the MC if it can be SUGGESTED that she work on the M without outside interference...still a form of an ultimatum but your MC would know how to word it better and if they felt you were at a safe point where you could say "call her bluff."
I'm only hesitant because I've seen the WAS go further into the A when an ultimatum was given.
