she DID say in our session that she felt that she was at a crossroads and her feet were stuck and could not make a decesion...one road led her to work things out with me and the other was to become independent and take the world by storm (I was led to believe that the other road did not have the OM long term)...but I have to question that now...I think I'm being made the fool...but why...where is the motive besides cake and eat it too.
I know ultimatums are wrong and I want to avoid that, partly because I don't want her coming back for the wrong reasons, financial, etc. My C did say that she did not think it was out of line to suggest that she quit seeing OM while trying to work on the M...next appt is Thur...but I don't know if I can wait that long...I will however have her for two hours in a confined room that I can clear some things up and then I could see what her attitude is toward the stopping the A.
LKC, thank you for your words...I will wait 24 hours...I have learned my lesson from a reaction from the discovery of the A...I sent an angry e-mail and said some bad things in it when I was angry and W still has e-mail and brings it up to throw in my face and "see this is why I left"...I have to be smarter, wiser...like a good DBer...I must be calm...direct and focused...this past week was about me validating her...I think this weeks session needs to be about me a little more...what do you think?
