Honestly, when I am sick or just not feeling good...rule of thumb, just leave me be, unless of course I require Medical Treatment...if there was a cave for women...I would be in it...I wouldn't be calling anyone to come bring me anything. I'd get it myself. As for telling someone that I was seeing, yes I suppose I would tell them...but ask them to get me something nah, not unless they offered (as you did) and I really felt that I couldn't take care of it myself.
Read into it...you said I asked her if she had any juice and she said no...I asked her if she wanted me to bring her anything she said that she was going to crash for a while and when she woke up "I might give you a call if I need somthing" She called you back said the fever was going down and she didn't need anything...so therefore, she didn't need anything from you nor om. You were just nice enough to extend an offer, perhaps he also did. You do not know. But point is, she didn't call you asking to get her anything, she did however let you know she was feeling better...I don't call that being a comfort zone...I call that being polite on her part.
SandS, I thought it was a good sign because she did not have to call me that night...yes it was polite but that is a far cry than where she has been to me past few weeks.
So you think I'm reading too much into it and she was just being polite in calling me? Shoot...I was hoping for a glimmer of a wall starting to come down a bit.
Oh well...maybe a good session tomorrow...I do appreciate your feedback and posts
Quote: So you think I'm reading too much into it and she was just being polite in calling me? Shoot...I was hoping for a glimmer of a wall starting to come down a bit.
You know your W better than me, I hope...just offering a women's perspective...one thing you will notice when you detach you stop analyzing things and just take them for what they are and appreciate it.
Quote: That is a problem my wife says...that I'm a planner and I over analyze thing to death...This is something I need to work on.
My wife said the same thing! Totallymessed up said the same thing! Is this just a guy thing or is this a big turn off to women that we like to plan and analyze? Is it we need to be spontaneos and more creative? I know the answer to that one is Yes, but how?
Tim
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Quote: Is this just a guy thing or is this a big turn off to women that we like to plan and analyze? Is it we need to be spontaneos and more creative? I know the answer to that one is Yes, but how?
Probably the difference between the right side/left side of the brain...have you read Mars and Venus...might be a good place to start Tim.
Quote: Never read it but will give it a try! Do you have the author?
Honestly I don't honey...some snagged my book at the shop...seems the boys in the dart shop are reading it...Lord help us women now!! Just don't let Spanky get a hold of it.
It's a very popular book...just go to Amazon or BnN and you will find it...start off with the basic Mars and Venus...he's written a whole book series. Gives excellent insight into what he said/she said and what is truly meant.
Oh My...Oh My... Just got home from the marriage session and it was 2 hours of wonderful discussion. It was the first session and you all would be so proud of me, I didn't bring up OM once...she did once but i said "that we can talk about the by product of our lack of communication later...right now I want to focus on us and where we took a wrong turn in our marriage" WOW!!! where did that come from??? One answer...NYS, Stong and sassy, Hopefloats and all that gave me there wisdom of DBering...Thank you.
Now I know that I have a long way to go and that this is just another stop in this roller coaster of life but gosh, I really got a glimmer of hope tonight.
Discovery from session: 1)she does not see OM as long term prospect at all...she rolled her eyes at the thought...good sign 2) she said that she did not want our communication to be relegated to just once a week at our sessions...(talk more on phone maybe even a date down the road) 3) she said that she could tell a difference in me...she didn't know what it was...she thought maybe like your humbled...I said no I like to look at as enlightened...I could tell the 180 freaked her out...she didn't know how to handle it. 4) W said that she never imagined this session would go so good...Thanks DB!!!!
i swear I could eat a horse right now and I'm so tired...it's amazing how your body will replenish itself when needed with a little good news.
Great news!!! I admit to not being totally up to date on your sitch (will read it later) but I love to hear news like that. I really hope she sticks with that attitude and opens up to working on the R. I just wish my W was even willing to go to C.
