I don't know the answer to that question. In my case, my H. does not live with o.w. and as far as I know she does not stay overnight with him where he lives. He has 2 housemates (male) and o.w. has a young child, so it doesn't make that very easy.
I have heard that if they do live together, it can end the A. quicker. I mean, think about that. If you're living with someone there is no way to hide your imperfections. Reality is going to set in big time. So, I can see why an A. would end faster. As for the staying in touch part, yeah, I think that can be very normal. For weeks, my H. was seeing both o.w. and me very frequently. I mean, spending time together, not just calling at that point. It was making him a wreck, mind you, but it went on and on. I am terrible at taking my own advice, but I really do think these WAS's think about us a lot more than we ever know.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
