Thought I'd catch up on your situation. Sounds very familiar to me...lol!
Anyway, as you can see over on my thread, I've spent about a week and 1/2 being very "dim" in regards to calling H. Before this, I was calling much more frequently. He would answer, and talk to me, but I realized this was not attractive behavior and I had to make a change.
It is SO hard to break away from the person you love and have been married to. It only proves to me how H. must have long ago exited emotionally from our marriage, to be able to take up with o.w. and actually move out. It frightens me that these major changes took place right under my nose while he was still living with me...and I just didn't pick up on it until he was too far gone into the affair to stop.
Anyway, this past week proved interesting, as H. started calling me a lot, and not even waiting for me to return his call...he'd just call right away again. For 3 days this happened. Maybe you should give this technique a try? I dunno, it might speak loudly to your wife.
Just to let you know, I am not seeing anyone, but I think this new behavior may be making my H. think I am. There is something else that happened back on Christmas eve that I believe might also be a reason why he's suddenly more curious, but the stopping of the calls was a 180 for me.
I'm glad I logged on, because I was really thinking of calling him tonight. Now I can see I just can't do it!
I, too, have been worried H. may "want to talk" now that the holidays have passed. So far, he has not said anything, and I even saw him in person yesterday. If he's not bringing up filing, neither am I.
I'll keep in touch; no calling, ok?!!
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
