Quote: WHAT IF THE BEST THING FOR ME IS TO GET AWAY FROM THE W? I mean...I have no kids...she obviously doesn't want to be with me...she is at OM house again tonight...I understand the concept of DB and am all for it but where is the threshold of pain where we say enough is enough...I am relatively young and this is absolutly the craziest thing I have ever been a part of.
Honey that is something that only you can decide. True you have no real binds together (family) but I wonder if you aren't reacting on emotion thinking like this also. Our minds play strange games with us when we get caught up in the moment of emotion.
Not a real lapse, or backslide it was real...you were reaching out because she had been there in the past. Perhaps if she had known the reason behind the TM she may have responded, again who's to say? Hard to speculate on anything.
Vince, give yourself sometime...work on GAL and see what happens. It took me 6mos of ups and downs and reflection to realize that I really didn't want to continue to live as I had been living. Yes, I may have loved Wanker...but life with him again, with me as I am now and he as he still is, simply not possible. He can never be the man I want or need in my life. He had every opportunity given to him and he couldn't rise to it. That was my call...this is my new walk in life.
I don't know how long you have been in your sitch...but give it time...I think because you are still clearly reacting on emotion that you are not ready to make a firm decision and one that you would be living with the rest of your life. Let it go for now, let it all go...work on you...find Vince...as you said you are young, you have so much time in front of you, use that to your advantage.
