And you have to know that I have an insecurity (like I think most of us novice DB would) that by not returning the call I would actually fuel the fire...But...I would not ever not call back so I'm putting my faith in 180 tech.
Yes it is an insecurity...but it's okay...do yourself a favor and go over and read Hope Floats thread...she's been going through this also...and look at the response she is getting from H...he's wigging out because she's not answering and making herself completely accessible...she's learning and has come a long way...Do you remember Pavlov's dog...you honor and reward good behaviour? When she calls, let her, force her to leave a voice mail...then you can decide based on the message whether or not it warrants a response. Nine times out of 10 the WAS just needs to know that you are there...it helps them to continue to live their little fantasy life...but when you make yourself less accessible...then something stirs inside the WAS...it's a mystery, they cannot focus on themselves or the op for that matter...they HAVE to know that you are still there.
