but I remember seeing something of no calls to family...have I messed up going dark?

I don't think a simple holiday greeting constitutes a mess-up. In fact, I think it shows you're cordial and living your life and simply thinking of them in that sense.

Was what you read more along the lines of not speaking with WAS's family about the sitch, more so than about sending a holiday geeting?

Now go back to being dark.