WAW is having affair

[FinallyUnderstands]

This person has a violent past with her they were engaged once and she broke it of because he used to beat her.

Wow. Well, if he hasn't changed, he's likely to demonstrate the same behavior again, given time.

She had made a comment just before I left the house that "He's not like that anymore and I would never put our kids in any harm"

I know that I need to keep DBing and be patient with this. I have several people telling me that I need to get over it and move on, but they don't have the investment in this the way I do. I really need help with detachment. I have made signifigant changes in my life and I am dealing with this very well. I'm just now getting on the big coaster and I need advice from those who have been through it. Can some check or recheck my sitch and let me know if I'm on the right track? I'm going to schedule a DB coach soon, however I started a new job and I won't get a paycheck for another two weeks.