and find I attract women anywhere from about 25 on up I love hearing that...makes me feel like there will still be someone else out there for me.
You sitch is young, and you're on the emotional rollercoaster, and when the coaster is down, you'll feel like calling it quits. You'll feel differently when it's up. I know my situation is young and I feel so weak...many people on here are so strong that they can wait months...I just don't think that I have it in me...not the way it is now...If I had some baby steps and W was not so cold to me, I might be more receptive
Hmmm... you guys were trying for a baby when this happened. You may be unto something here, as that most certainly could be something that triggers a commitment phobe to panic and run.
yes and she has a pattern developing with other H and prob boyfriends. Prev husband lasted about 2 years also...I think that will be my next set of books COMMITMENT PHOBIA...recommend any titles?
So now, I'm thinking, and this is just a guess, those birth control pills she was taking... if that was so that she wouldn't get pregnant by you, it would seem to confirm her commitment issues. How long were you married?
she took them to keep us from baby or she took them to keep her safe with OM...I think that is when she started becoming PA. We were married 2 years 11/3
Maybe they are, but it's unlikely they are. They're probably more into infatuation at this stage, if anything.
Problem is she thinks that the infat stage is "love"...classic case of why she is not "in love" with me anymore.
OM is only serving her purpose for the time being and unwittingly plays that role, and she's likely to come to a realization that he's not suitable as a life partner.
I agree she has already told me this...but right or wrong I think that is why I'm throwing her into his arms to figure it out...but I can't take the pain to just watch it play out...I thought that I could but I can't...I have to withdraw and I can't while I'm still thinking of her always. Not to say that I won't if we were divorced but I think that deep down she will always wonder what she lost and maybe come to her senses.
You may look into group activities rather than one on one dating to have a social life. Do have a social life.
Yes...I asked a girl out a best buy yesterday just to see if I still got it...I still got it...we've been texting each other all day...It has been a real ego boost for me.
I emailed W this morning telling her I was through...actually it wan't that nice...I told her that I was filing on Monday...now of course I regret sending it...I knew the 24 hr rule of cooling off but I had convinced myself that it did't matter and my mind wouldn't change...Oh well...have not heard from her about the letter and know she got it so I'm sure she is relieved as now I'm the bad guy and she can save face...whatever...you know I wonder...am I really in love with her or am I in love with the idea of being in love with her and all the wonderful things a relationship has to offer.
