Give me strength!!! My W who moved out yesterday is at OM house already tonight...she can't even have all of her stuff put away at her new apt. and she is at his house tonight? I'm telling you that I don't know if it's strength or stupidity staying around...I mean I have a lot to offer someone and she is not even emotional about leaving us and going straight over there, what kind of fool am I? Yes. I am all for working at the marriage and in my first marriage I even was the WAH so I know what my wife is going through, but I also know that this sucks. I gave her a letter yesterday as she moved out...not gushy...not loving, but saying that I have been in her shoes (She did not know about sits on first marriage) I was trying validate her feelings as what she is going through. We are suppose to go to joint therapy the first week of Jan...wanna bet we don't go? I think she only agreed as to save reputation as "we tried everything"
I have two options, send a text message while she is over there tonight and say, I've thought about things and I don't want to be a part of this anymore. or wait two weeks and see if she goes to the therapy, but still as the book "uncoupling" says in she is saving face by "trying" but "trying to fail"
Please advise as to what to do...why continue the humiliation...if we are meant to be, then we will be, but no more humiliation and hurt.
