Panda, Love the insight...I have to say that OM does have a job and a company car, they are co-workers...but he has no drive for more...my w is self proclaimed high maintenance and I don't think he will be able to keep her in the lifestyle that she has been accustomed and I think deep down, that is what she is struggling with. She of couse says that there is nothing going on and that she thinks it is easier for me to assume that so I can use that as an excuse...But my thing is if she say's that she doesn't question my commitment to the marriage and that it is not OM, then why not work at the marriage or at least give me a shot at proving myself. MC or something...but cutting me off cold turkey for two weeks...Ouch. She called me the Tue before Thanksgiving and was crying saying that she had just been to a psycic and he asked where is your husband and she said that he is not with me...he then said that you will be together with him long time, two kids..blah blah...but what I thought was intersting is that she said but I don't know if I still love him and he said "you will love again" He didn't say that you will love "him again", but she took it and ran with it as it was me...I took that as a favorable sign and prior to reading DB or DR I began to gush to her...wrong! I know but I didn't know at that time to stay cool...so I have probabily set myself back in time for my gush of affection because she knows she still has me on the hook...
