Hi Vince, About security -- yes. it was always big thing for me. But I have a different attitude here than most woman. I immigrated to the USA, went through a refuge camp on my own and have no family elsewhere -- actully I have, but they are so screwed up that it was one of the reasons I left my country. After making it from scratch in the free world, going through a string of mundane jobs before I ended up doing what I love to do, I do know what does it mean to start from scratch and to be without anything and anybody. And even though I went through this experience with flying colors, I would never want to do it again - never again - let alone at my age.
Most other women have some family, even if it is not perfect, they have motheres, fathers, sisters, brothers, coursins, aunts -- at least one or two clos people - so they don't have a concept of being truly on their own, alone, in case of illness for example.
Most people - incl. women - didn't start from scratch, so they no concept how hard it really is to lose everything.
If your W doesn't like the idea of dating, that explains how she got involved with this guy who doesn't sound like a good partner for eher or any other woman. Geez, adult man in the US without a job and without car - bad news.
Which is good news for you. He is no competition for you Vince on the long run. Really. Trust me. Sooner or later, once the initial endorphin shock settles, she will wake up and smell the roses and wonder what the heck is she doing with a guy like that? What can he offer her? - Ok, maybe something what was lacking in the relationship with you, bu not the whole enchilada, for sure. I am sure she will miss some things he simply is not able to provide her.
She will want someone else - and since dating scene is not alluring to her, she will want to come back to you most likely. If she will see that she can without losing her face, and if she will see you as a valuable partner.
I think that if she is attached emotionally to this guy, she is also blindsided, but it will not last -- maybe already she sees some signs that life with this guy is a pipe dream...
Hang on there - you CAN get her back, if you really want. And if you play your cards well. No doubt!
sunny greetings, PandaWanda
Sunny greetings from Florida,
Wanda
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