SF, You're right...I know the answer...I'm just trying to kid myself into thinking she is miseable...I have thought that she needs to see me at a club with a pretty woman and of course I say that ow is just a "friend" like her EA/PA...but I don't have any proof that she is having a PA and she said that she was not going to see other people during the seperation and I would hate to be the one to cause more issues that are unneeded. But I do agree that I need to have fun for me...It is just so hard...I can go out for a couple of hours and then I start missing her or I see a couple in a restaurant and remember the way we used to be...At least at home I can seek salvation here chating...