WAW is having affair

[spitfire23]

I apologize in advance for this. Do I think she is thinking of you or your R? NO. Do I think lack of contact encourages contact by wife? Maybe. I think it's your best shot, vinces. Is there some activity or some place you could go that your W might see you or hear of you having been? Perhaps a favorite hang out or restaurant? Do you have mutual friends that you might have an enjoyable time with and maybe that would filter back to her?

The trick here is you really have to be having a good time. You have to do this for you. Not, to impress her. You have to make a serious effort to work on yourself and hope that she notices.

I wish you well.

Spitfire