Thanks for the feedback...I have read the two DB books and many others searching for answers...I know that time is my friend...especially due to the fact that if she has already acknowledged that the guy does not have long term characteristics...but I am getting through the hurt stage and now entering the anger phase...I'm thinking, do I want her back? Will I ever be able to trust her again...I'm not a bad looking guy, successful, Fun...I can find another W and life partner...OK...but I really want my W back...Does anyone have any thoughts on calling...of course keeping it light and not asking to see her, but just to check in and demonstrate how I have been changing (not telling her) maybe even be quick to get off the phone?