Sorry to see you here. Your situation does not sound that far from mine. My W is unfortunately having a PA with someone who owns no vehicle, does not have a steady job from season to season, and seems to be not much above a drifter. Whereas I have worked my @ss off to support our family, pay for the vehicles W has wanted to buy, pay for the house she has wanted to build, etc etc etc. We moved into the middle of nowhere so we could build the house W wanted - and essentially killed off my chances of having a life, what with work, two small kids, long commutes, and no one nearby to have fun with. Then I got sick and the situation got worse, but my point is this - W views me as not having any life, while OM is 'full of life'.
What I have found is that time and patience is the only thing we have to work with, other than working on ourselves. If your W is having an affair, there is nothing you can do at this point to stop it or control it. All you can do is work on yourself, and change the things in your life that you can. I can't say that it will work for me, hopefully it will work for both of us. If you haven't read DR or DB, you should, plus there are other readings you might try, like the 5 Love Languages. I hope things work out for you.
Out with the old, in with the new
2006 will be better than 2005
