Ifeel like I'm going to explode...about eight weeks ago I found out my wife was taking B-control pill behind my back (when we were supposed to be trying for a child)...when confronted she said that she is not sure if she is ready...a week or so passed and I discovered lies and deceit all centered around a co-worker...she promised that they are just friend...kinda like that guy friend you had in college that you could tell everything to she said...she went on to say that she has been trying to figure out why she is drawn to him (not in a sexual way) but EA...she said that he is low motivated, no drive is not financially secure has a room mate, lives way out. The complete opposite of me. She says that she knows that I have all the qualities of the ideal husband but I know you have all heard it before "I just don't know if I'm in love anymore." I would love to take out an ad in the national news and explain to people that this is natural so they don't freak out like this...well she pointed out all my flaws of being controling and of course EA is not...so I have read every book on control issues and have been trying to fix myself...but she has not wanted any contact and I am trying to reverse the dynamic by not pursueing and begging, which is what I had done for weeks. It's been two weeks today since I last spoke to her on the phone...she is staying at a girl friends house...the same girl that asked me many times to find someone like me for her...wonder what she thinks now? What I know is that my wife is having at least EA and at worst a PA...she is not open to MC and does not seem to open to any communication...when I tell you that we were fine one minute planning a family and the next it was like a switch was turned off...I'm really confused on if I should continue this non communication...My last conversation two weeks ago was asking if this time away from us was helping she said that she is enjoying her autonomy...of course I said that you can have auto within a marriage...Any W or DB have any words of wisdom? I could really use the help.
