It might have been a couple meetings before I noticed hers was gone. It hit me hard the day I saw it. Around that time I had told her she could have 5 years to run if she needed it, I just wanted her to be slow to pull the D trigger.
10 days later I decided to really drop the rope and told her that if she wanted to proceed to D I would participate willingly and efficiently. About that time I decided to take it off.
But where to keep it. I took the tie I wore at our Wedding, placed it on a teddy bear I once bought myself and tied the ring up on it. One week later I bundled up some things that I'd begged her not to take and placed that tie and wedding ring on HER bear and put them in the top of the box. Shortly thereafter I left that box with her when we met.
I took the ring off to show her that I was letting go. I gave it to her (secretively, yes) to show her that she is free but if her freedom gets old, the next move will be hers.
