I have read a bit on the Break Free book. But most of these books suggest the same thing...you have control only over yourself when your WAS is separated from you and involved with another person...so you take that time to reflect, read, gain knowledge and do a helluva lot of soul searching and see what your part in the demise of the R was. It's hard to face sometimes...but you work on you...you GAL and work on your PMA...the goal is to make yourself stronger and more attractive...whether or not the WAS returns. Because let's face it, the old R is gone...poof...any and all chances you have of starting over is just that starting over. Yes, you know you have a history but you make a new history new memories...you have to prove to yourself and your WAS that the past is the past and that the future is a whole lot brighter if they spend it with you.
The Make Up Not Break Up book is wonderful for explaining the difference between a Pursuer and Distancer...right now the LBS tends to be the Pursuer and the WAS is the distancer. The Good Mood book is excellent for breaking down and working through your emotions. Let me tell you I had a complete 180 after finishing that book. I've decided to just move on and completely drop the rope.
