Quote: Your W is saying that she wants those feelings and had them once with *you*.
She is also saying that she doesn't think it is possible, and she is getting them from OM now. But I know you are right and I am being negative.
Quote: She's confused and can see that had you both done this long ago, you wouldn't be where you are now. Even she can't deny that there is hope here.
Yes, but she says she doesn't want to try, she wants to stay in love with OM and for us to be friends and good parents.
ok, I know you had a lot of positives and I am just in a negative mood today. I need to perk up.
I am thinking that the best way to see this situation is not that she 'wants' OM over me, but that HE is THERE and I am HERE. She has feelings for him that right now overwhelm her feelings for me. I need to develop her relationship with me regardless of what her relationship with him is doing. I guess then at some point she may find herself having feelings for both of us which even though it sucks, it will make her have to think about what she is doing. Then she may be able to make a choice that heals our family. Right?
I guess it would be less difficult if she wasn't so emotionally neutral to me most of the time. But I guess we want it NOW.
