From what I read in your posts, these things seem hopeful to me. 1. Your W is still living with you. 2. Your W is willing to attend C with you and girls 3. Your W appears to have some remorse for what is happening especially w the girls 4. Your W seems to have let her guard down a little with you (shower flashing, playful baking, etc) 5. If I get your story right, you had some major problems which contributed to your M problems. W endured and hung in there while you were messed up. You get yourself straightened out and then W says shes had enough. In my former life I was a WAW. Scenario was not unlike your sitch. When I had finally had enough, I walked. Nothing could have convinced me to stay. Your W is still there. I'm not sure she is ready to throw in the towel. I know every sitch is different. It's just my gut feeling that she's not totally sure. I hope I'm right. 6. My biggest reason is that YOU seem to have gotten it. You know you screwed up and you seem to be willing to do all the hard work to win your wife back. You also seem to have a good handle on this DB stuff. I'm sure you may backslide some. We all do. But overall, you seem to know how to keep your head and stay the course.
This reply was off the top of my head w/o rereading everything. If I see hopeful signs in future posts I will point them out.
Have a very Merry Christmas. Remember to "act as if" you will be enjoying many more together. Be loving and patient. Tell yourself "I can hold on. I can do this."
Hugs
Spitfire
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
