I am trying to decide if these events mean anything. Don't want to read into something that may not be there.
Last nite I came home and W was in the kitchen. D10 had apparently been trying to get out of homework by saying she was 'sick'. This has been her mantra since the separation.
W comes over to me and leans close to whisper in my ear. Tells me all about what's been going on with D10. She backs away, then come close again to talk some more. Does this about 4-5 times and is close to where she is touching me. Seems weird to me since that is REALLY getting into MY personal space. Something she has not done in a month. Normally she would take me into another room to talk about an issue like this. Seems silly to look at this as an 'event'.
Later... She comes and stands next to me on the stairway that goes into the family room. She's about 3 feet away and looks me in the eyes while talking to me about D10, who she has put to bed already. A Pleasant talk, nice to be close, and having eye contact. She then does some stretching while standing there also. Also a 'different' behavior.
Later, she calls me into her room so she can show me the 'cute' present she got D10. While we're there I pick up her bra that is sitting on a chair and put it on my head (ok, that was weird but I thought it would be funny!). She then starts telling me "You know what's sad? D15 fits into that bra now and since I have been losing weight I fit into D10's bras!". She continues to complain about her now small, sagging boobs until I say "Sweetie, boobs do NOT make the woman!". (oops, I said Sweetie). She smiled and said she was going to start saving for a boob job.
This morning she talks to me about D10's teacher who knows about our situation and is not cutting D10 any slack with her problems getting homework done 'his way'. Some of his rules are just plain stupid. W is afraid to talk to him about it because she knows she will cry and doesn't want to do that. So I tell her that I will take care of it and talk to him this morning, which makes her feel better.
A few minutes later she is in the downstairs bathroom and has just had her shower. She opens the door about a foot and is standing there naked. She starts telling me to remember to do something for D10 (I don't recall what it was now).
She closes the door and I walk away. A minute later she opens it again and starts to talk to me again, so I walk to where I can see her and she is still naked. I keep eye contact and listen to what she needs and then walk away with no reaction.
Normally she would put on her robe which is RIGHT THERE in the bathroom.
Very very unusual.
Well, that's my story. In a couple hours we're all going to family counseling. That will be fun.
