Just checking in on you. So, I take it your daughters are not allowed in your wife's room...because then they'd see the mistletoe taped to her computer and ask questions, right? I think your oldest is going to figure out what is going on very soon, so you might want to be prepared for that. Kids are smarter than we think, and since W. is still living at home it is going to be increasingly harder for her to mask what she is really up to. I think it's good that you are stepping out of the way; let W. hit bottom, and she will. It's good that the pain she is causing the kids is beginning to sink in. Let it. This can only help the situation. Hang in there.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
