Quote: StrongNSassy: I'm still not convinced about the OM.
Hey, I went to W's friend who is a massage therapist to get a massage this morning. She was also in Hawaii with W and OM and doesn't like OM. She thinks W is way way off the 'spiritual' bandwagon because as she put it 'we are taught to keep emotionally disconnected from people we interact with on the table, and she did not do that. She is clearly out there and I can see how it is hurting her family and that shows me she has lost her integrity'.
She also mentioned that some of the others in the group of teachers who were at the retreat are all shocked at her actions. Many of them are behind me and the girls hoping this will work out eventually, which is a great thing to hear.
BUT, she also said this about OM:
Whenever she saw him there she noticed that when he was with his Girlfriend there, he would hug her but be looking around at the other women who were there. She said it made her feel very uncomfortable about him, like he was looking for someone else to hook up with. She said the other teachers didn't feel good about him either. The feeling is that he is full of himself and just uses women because he doesn't know how to really love them. Makes sense, his GF is needy and he dumps her when he meets my W, who at the time is ALSO needy.
Also, this friend simply doesn't believe he has really dumped GF.
Well, at least there are more people who actually KNOW my wife and are rooting for the family. I feel much better about that. There are only a couple of her friends who are in her court but they are also the ones who are messed up the most.
So, I asked her to pray for me that OM will NOT come to see W in February like she is trying to arrange. That he will get a SMALL bit of conscience and back off from her, let her go, stop this stuff.
Our friend said that if OM had actually MET me at the retreat or somewhere else, he wouldn't have done this stuff because, as she put it 'He would see that next to you, he is nothing and you are spiritually stronger'. I like that.
I wanted to add 'And I would have punched his lights out too.'
What a ride this is. I am better every day, thanks to people like TJ, BJ, nicola, AMyC, Bruce, Sassy and all the rest of you who keep me living in the light and stop me from falling into the dark abyss. Whether or not the marriage is healed I know for SURE now what I WANT in a wife.
