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I called a friend and talked to him about faith, and how hard it is to have faith that you are doing the right things in this situation. And when do you give up and decide it's hopeless, or not worth it.


This is a tough one for me, too. It has been a real test of my faith in God, and I'm not sure how well I'm doing... It is really hard to see *how* on earth this could all be positive. OTOH, I have grown a lot as a person, am more self-confident and indepedent, getting better at making boundaries and taking care of *myself*. And my H also seems to be learning about himself and, I hope, will do something about his problems. It's just too bad that it has to happen this way.

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When I say a prayer, asking for direction, I haven't gotten a message that I should move on or give up.


I have been so confused by competing voices that I try not to talk to anyone about my sitch anymore, except on the board. I have prayed and prayed for my H to come back to me, but then last week, I just prayed for direction, just to know what to do. That was Friday and Saturday of last week. And on Sunday, H came to my Christmas choir concert, which was totally unexpected. So I guess it's not time to give up yet.

Hey, did you ever see that Simpsons episode where Homer has a giant sub sandwich? He keeps it for weeks and Marge keeps telling him to throw it out. One night, he prays this:"God, if you want me to eat this, give me no sign at all." Nothing happens. He says, "Thy will be done," and chows down. Maybe that's what we all need to do when we want to get the answer we want to hear!

Hey, at least there's never a dull moment for you!

Nicola

Life isn't about finding yourself; it's about creating yourself
My thread: Trusting God's Plan