Quote: Ooh...she threw out a memento from OM? That's pretty big, frank.
Well, let me be the devils advocate for all the things I said earlier so I can keep myself grounded, and detached.
The 'rose' was a plastic one that you'd get somewhere fancy and it had the 'rose' part filled with a liquid, so it probably glowed in the dark when it was bought. You know the type? Maybe she just thought it was junk by now?
Yes, our counselor is really good. W is still hung up on OM and still telling everyone she is 'separated / divorcing' so it's hard to say what she will do. She talked to him 2 hours on wednesday, 1hr in the afternoon, 1hr late (around 10 pm) which is 1 AM EST. Actually, that's more than usual.
She didn't talk to him at all thursday after our Counseling. I was surprised as she was upset and went for one of her 'drives' where she gets into her emotions. (The girls were very emotional at bedtime so she was having to bear the brunt of it) Maybe OM wasn't up late...
I am still maintaining a 'Lovingly disconnected' attitude, keeping my indifference to her actions. I realize I got real hopeful today and I hurt myself doing it because she is still 'the same'. One visit to the counselor doesn't mean anything has changed. One punch in the arm doesn't mean she's in love with me again. It is what it is.
I'll see our counselor on tuesday alone so I can get a reading from her as to what this all means. I see her Wednesday with the kids and thursday with W.
Anyway, I NEED to maintain my disconnect / slight anger or I will become needy again. Be fun and light hearted but still work under the assumption that she wants a Divorce and I am going to be her best friend.
