Quote: This sounds like it was rehearsed. Does she really mean it? Frank, she really does sound like she's in a total fog. Will she come out of it? I don't know. I don't think OM is actually that big a deal; I think it's more about you and her, not him and her.
She does do these talks when she wants to make a point. They are rehearsed I'm sure or at least 'symbolic' to her. I guess I'm not seeing the 'fog'. She seems to know what was wrong with our relationship and what she wants out of another one and how she will never get that from me. Other than the 'forgivness' she needs to resolve with me she believes she has totally moved on. Am I missing it?
OM may not be a long term 'big deal' but he is right now. It's all she thinks about.
Quote: I know what you mean. I am backing way off for my own sake; I just can't can't take the stress anymore.
Yeah, and I am also starting to believe it is just over. Other than the small moments of emotion I see from her she is 'out the door' emotionally and NEVER has anything good to say about our marriage.
Maybe this is the best thing to do - act as if it's over and try to be a friend. Perhaps when her affair fades out things will be different but who knows when or if that will happen. And even by then she may have been able to distance herself even more from me.
I really messed up by letting myself get weak and depressed for so long. It sure seems like there is no way to repair the damage we created.
