Quote: Try to remember that your W is now an alien. She is not herself. She is in a fog. That's why she is so oblivious to the damage all around her.
I just find it so amazing. On our walk she had some moments of real emotion about the situation but when it COUNTS during the actual emotional situations with the girls she acts as if everything is OK. I'm sure if I asked her she would say she is 'trying to put up a positive front for the girls sake'.
I am just trying to figure out if I should be basically blowing her off and getting into the mode of caring for the girls by talking to them in front of her and basically adopting the attitude that she is leaving, peroid.
There is so much hurt she can continue to drag up when we talk, all of it my fault. I mean, our life was tough, I was depressed and drinking and she was afraid for me and didn't know what to do. ANYTHING I bring up as a positive experience she can find something that made it negative. I just don't see any way to get beyond that and DB our way back into a marriage when right now she gets all her 'love feelings' from elsewhere.
