LOL!--I am sitting here, yes too bad alone on a Sat. night, thinking of an Italian Stallion!
Detaching, patience, give him time, space--I know what I should be doing, but am giving much thought now to the Ital. Stallion, --but better not go there now.
I somehow fell onto a thread tonight with so much insight and mirroring of my situation, and I'm sure many others. I will post there soon, but for now am really reading and trying to think about all the wise thoughts I found there. In Newcomers Still Needing Help Part II-- There seems to be so many of us LBS's wrestling with this ML issue and our comfort level. I think my biggest problem is I cannot whambamm, but associate so much intimacy with ML, that detaching almost seems to be impossible.
I think many of us here, like myself, are trying to coast through the holidays without rocking the boat. I have also decided to coast and am giving myself until Jan. to decide some major thoughts on our R. Mainly, do I continue H's weekly visit and continue to ML and see if more intimacy develops? or is my GAL going down hill because of this? Lots to think about. And I know this roller coaster probably won't get any easier. I'm going to thank the people on the post I mentioned for their wisdom and insight from just reading their sitch.
I still say we must try not to carry guilt about our willpower or on what we are doing or saying, because our M is foremost in our thoughts and reconnecting as our goal. thanks for your thoughts
"I cannot do this alone In me there is darkness But with you, there is light."
