Not sure if I am the right person to advise since I've been yoyo-ing soooo much and have been beating myself up for giving into having phone s@x with my H.... but as the advice I got from KML recently... If s@x can be the "connection bridge" to help you build your R, draw your H towards you and it's something that you want to do.... Guessed it's no harm??!!?? Maybe I should keep my gap shut...